Attachment

Why do people get attached to the environment.
Love - the bridge for attachment its like a double-edge sword it can make you and break you when that bridge collapses.
So why to people entertain and continue to build this bridge and emotion.
Is it because somewhere deep inside every human require and desire a mortal touch.
A touch from a lover, a brother and a friend.
Through this touch human feel secure, save from any harm and danger that is happening around them and for the slightest moment a feeling of belonging and acceptance.
If such security can be felt then why do a handful of people shut them out?
They desire to fill that empty hole with security and love but are hesitant about it.
Is it because of fear?
Fear that if that support is broken they will break too?
That is a risk that one is not ready to make.
They fear that once it is broken it can never be fixed, a permanent scar will be present ; a scar that can never be healed no matter what they do.
That is why they search desperately for a partner somebody to cling onto when their pillar is broken.
The reason for the search is not for belonging, security or recognition it is however a pillar to cling onto when the bridge or support has finally ran its course and decide to collapse.
However that search is stained with suspicion, distrust and skepticism.
The reason?
This second pillar will be the pillar that can break a person to the extend he/she will lose direction and feel lost in this big unforgiving world.
Attachment is hard because there is fear. Fear of being hurt.
So how will one be able to complete the search?
Remove the feelings of skepticism and distrust, allowing emotions to flow freely again, soften the half-harden heart and finally allow someone to come in?
May be that is the whole motive of the search.

Daily Chit Chat

To accomplish work in the office can be done in many ways...
For the 'all work and no play' type of people daily empty chit chats in the office might be a hindrance for meeting datelines....
May be to them its a waste of time...
These kind of people are most probably self absorbed type of people...
Yes they are focus...
but...
'All work and no play makes jack a dull boy'
They tend to block everything out..
Work first play later...
Putting priority in accomplishing a goal n dateline is a good thing but...
When its is done to the extreme that is self absorbed...
They tend to block play and spend quality time with the closest people..
Often their life is monotonous...
in and out everyday the same activities...
Occasionally they might agree to go out with friends...
Daily chit chats in the office can make a person realise these things...
Its funny how these 'empty' chit chats can make you wonder about your current situations...
May be its time to change eh??
Working and Studying might not be the only important thing in our current life..
May be its time to spend time with friends whom we lost contact...
Appreciate the ones we have now..
And embrace the ones we will meet in the future..
Most importantly never forget the closest ones to you...
Family...

Afternoon Ride On The Bus

Its ironic how an afternoon ride on a run down bus can make you realize many things that are taken for granted....
Simple things like an afternoon sun shining on your face and the wind produce by a forward moving bus messing up your hair...
These things suddenly became..... priceless....
In situation like these it makes you think about your goals..
The things you want most in life...
Funny how a ride on the bus can calm your mind...
The phrase '' Money cannot buy happiness'' is a true yet an annoying statement..
At one hand if we do not have money we will not be happy...
but on the other hand the love for money might make you lose the things that is most important to you...
Cruel world....
Living in the materialistic world most people are controlled by money for what?!
A Gucci wallet? Rolex watch? better yet a Ferrari of your choice...
It's true these things seems tempting but would it really satisfy you in the long run...
Being mortals and living in uncertain times and an unstable world its unfair really...
The thing you need the most will never be on your side but always against you...
That 'thing' is time...
the one 'thing' that we must succumb to before we leave this world...
And the one thing that will snatch the most precious thing you have yet taken for granted...
Family and a home....

A house might be a home but it can never guaranty you that it can be a home...

Home to me is having chit chat's with family members during cooking, lunch, dinner even before we go to bed..
A simple act yet hard to do and often taken for granted...
City life kills a family.... really...
We get caught up in daily routines and by the end of the day we'll be looking forward to our beds..
Its a sad life yet its an undeniable one....
The longing for a happy home in a small town is hard for people who lives in the city...
The burden of expectations from people closest to you makes it even harder...

A weekend trip to the beach, an evening to the park, a barbecue party with family and relatives or better yet a simple dinner out side seems like a fantasy....
Imagining it day and night makes it seems so near yet so far...
But its worth while...
At least it gives a temporary comfort and joy....
A happy and perfect family, living in my home town, meaningless chit chat's with relatives and a weekend trip to the beach...
Perhaps it is something we are longing for but too afraid to fight for it...
Maybe it is time to stand up to fight for your dreams and goals...
Because everything good is worth the fight...
Maybe just maybe if we fight long enough.....
That comfort and joy might come to us and perhaps stay with us forever...

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Guess i cant be the person you for saw after all....

Knowing When To Back Off

As the saying goes '' Don't bite off more than you can chew''
In some cases we really should not bite off more than what we can chew...
Biting off more than you can chew will eventually lead to unnecessary problems if we do not know how to handle it....
Not to say it is wrong to handle a problem that is way above your ability to solve it.....
It's safer to take baby steps than to jump into a problem or to lead a mega project when your just a graduate fresh out of Harvard.......
Sometimes when we get into a problem and can't handle it, instead of fighting the current may be it's wiser to follow the current once in a while.....
May be you'll find something even better.....
Not telling you to give up but is to tell you to take a break and see the options around and have a closer look at your circumstances...
For example taking additional mathematics...
For some add math is tough and you only have 6 month's until your major exam and you have never passed even once...
In cases like may be it's wiser to back off and just drop the subject and focus on other subjects....
Unless your line of work requires additional mathematic then it's a different story...
But if you really do not need it stop trying to fight it and be humble for a change may be it will produce a better outcome...

Blaming God, Satan and Everybody else

At times when facing problems we tend to blame everybody except ourselves...
We blame the world, the prime minister, our parents etc..
The list goes on and on....

For some they will blame God for giving them problems and not helping them solve it...
Well its true sometimes God give us problem....
But His intention are good.....
Problems are the only way we can learn and mature mentally.......
Without them we're just a bunch of spoiled losers....
The same thing goes for God when He gives us problems...
When God gives us problems He wants to see how we as human beings solve them...
What kind of solution and strategy we use, do we put our faith in Him? Or curse Him?
But like they say our God is kind...
When God gives us problems He will be there to supervise and judge....
When we cannot handle it anymore He will come and help.....
But God knows us very well and will give problems that we can handle but just enough to push us out of out comfort zone....

For another group they will blame the devil of them all Satan....
Well its true Satan come to steal, kill and destroy........
But not all problems are created by him....
For example if uyou were to get HIV because of having premarital sex then its your fault......
It is you who want to do it and it is you who are weak in faith.....
So not every problem are caused by Satan.....
Most of the time we create problem to ourselves...

Don't Be A Dumb Elephant

Have you ever wonder why the 5 ton gigantic mammoth at the circus is tied up with a weak chain?
Ever wonder why it never breaks the chain?
Well the truth is it can break the puny chain with just one pull...
So why doesn't it break the chain and roam free?
Does it like to be in the circus and be made a fool?
Does it like being chain up?
Many motivational books has use this as an example....
And the truth is because the elephant has given up.....
How come? Some may ask...
Actually when the elephant was brought in from lets say Africa it has been chain up since then....
At that time it was too weak to break the chain.....
After time and time again of tirelessly pulling the chain it finally gave up.....
So as time passes and as it grew bigger and bigger it will not even bother to try.....
Why?
Because it thinks that its no point to even try to pull the chain.....
If it can't break it then so what makes it so special to be able to break the chain now.......
This happens to many people....
When they try and try in a certain situation and never produce any result they tend to give up...
For example if a businessman is trying to start a business but has never produced any result eventually he will give up.....
He may find excuses may be he does not have enough money.......
But after 2 years he suddenly have $ 100,000 in his pocket will he start the business again?
Probably not.....
Just like the elephant he'll probably think that if I can't make it before what difference will it make if I have $100,000 in my pocket....
Isn't it ridicules?
Just because a few failures and we tend to give up even thought an opportunity is thrown in our face!
So the next time if we think of giving up think twice before you do so....
You don't wan to end up like a dumb elephant do you?

The Girl Next Door

Ever since the first day of moving into a luxury bungalow I have set my eyes upon the girl who was living next door. The girl next door just took my breath away . One glance at her and she is able to drive me up the wall. '' What a girl '' I thought to myself. Ever since that faithful day I have wanted to get to know her better and know her name. Unfortunately fear has gotten the most of me and so I would shy away every time she tries to have a conversation.

Day and night I have been desperately finding a way to fight the fear that has been gripping me. The struggle I'm having within myself has led to many sleepless nights. Even though i have tried time and time again to fight the fear, somehow it does not produce any result. To make matters worse the fear I have in me has worsen and now when I see that angelic face I would act as if i do not know her, Making me look like an arrogant fool.

Since fighting myself has not made any progress I decided to use another strategy to confront my fear. On the 13th of May I decided to be bolder and confront the girl next door and ask for her name. When she finally came out of her house to clean her porch, without hesitation I quickly burst out of the front door not wanting to miss this opportunity to talk to her. Soon after I began to regret that decision.

The moment I burst out of the front door I stepped on a banana peel and fell face down into the ground. How I wish I could bury my face unto the ground and hid my face wishing she did not see my embarrassing grand entrance. Next thing I knew I heard someone giggling. Not wanting to know who it was I quickly ran back into to house.

I thought to myself to never see her again because I can't live with that embarrassment. Later that evening I decided to wash the car just to get my mind off her and that unfortunate incident.
Next thing I knew I heard a gentle voice saying '' hi ''. I froze as I knew where that voice came from. I turned and replied her with a shaky voice. I was cursing my luck. She replied gently '' What's your name? '' I was surprised and quickly told her my name. After that we began our conversation together. When we parted I felt as if I was on cloud nine and I was just glad that I was at the right place at the right time.